As Australia prepares to introduce a social media ban for under-16s on December 10, many children are worried about losing touch with their friends.

While platforms must take steps to block underage accounts, experts say the real work will happen at home – where parents will need to manage emotions, guide safer online habits, and help kids adjust.

University of South Australia (UniSA) child safety expert Associate Professor Lesley-Anne Ey says empathy, education and steady communication will make the transition smoother for families.

Why the Ban Feels Big for Kids

For many teens and tweens, apps like Snapchat, TikTok and Instagram are at the centre of their friendships. They’ve grown up sharing videos, emojis and in-jokes online.

“When the ban kicks in, some kids may feel like they’re losing a social lifeline,” Assoc Prof Ey says. “Parents should invite questions and show understanding about what their kids see as a genuine loss.”

She suggests brainstorming safe alternatives:

• If they love TikTok dances → try apps like Just Dance

• If they want to chat → use closed group chats or messaging

• If they enjoy gaming → explore secure multiplayer games

“Supporting kids is about empathy – and keeping the lines of communication open.”

Teach Online Safety (Before the Ban Begins)

Under the new legislation, TikTok, Snapchat, Instagram, YouTube, Facebook and Reddit must stop under-16s creating accounts. But Assoc Prof Ey says bans alone won’t protect kids unless parents also teach safer habits.

Key conversations include:

• Protecting personal information: full names, addresses, passwords and photos

• Who it’s okay to talk to: friends only, no strangers

• Posting thoughtfully: once something is online, it’s permanent

“Young brains are still developing, and they crave peer approval. That makes them more likely to take risks online,” she says.

Encourage simple self-checks before posting:
Would I say this to someone’s face? Would I show this to Mum?
If not, it’s a sign to pause.

With rising rates of cyberbullying, coercion and sextortion, Assoc Prof Ey says taking the ban seriously is important for children’s safety.

“Supporting kids through the ban is really about empathy – and keeping the lines of communication open.” — Assoc Prof Lesley-Anne Ey

Be the Role Model They Need

Children copy what adults do, not what they say. Creating predictable routines helps kids feel secure.

Tips include:

• Set family-wide screen-free times (dinner, car rides, bedtime)

• Limit your own scrolling

• Create tech-free zones

• Encourage offline fun – sports, hobbies, board games, bike rides

“Screens have taken over so much of family life,” Assoc Prof Ey says. “Perhaps we all need to remember what life was like before them. It’s time to take control – for our sake, and for the wellbeing of our kids.”

Quick Guide: What Parents Need to Know

• Stay informed – Kids move quickly to new platforms. Explore new apps and their risks before your child does.

• Educate early – Talk about safe sharing, privacy, and what to do if something online feels wrong.

• Keep conversations open – Ask what they’re doing online and how it makes them feel.

• Show empathy – Acknowledge feelings of loss or frustration.

• Model healthy habits – Kids watch your behaviour first.

• Set consistent routines – Predictable boundaries reduce conflict.

• Encourage alternatives – Support offline social time to keep kids connected in healthier ways.

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