11 Dec 8 tips to navigate Christmas if you have a fussy eater or child with allergies

Everyone deserves to enjoy the holiday festivities, parents and children included, write Stella Boyd-Ford and Clare Dix

Food-focused celebrations like Christmas can be very stressful for parents with children who can’t eat just everything. Perhaps they are selective eaters or have allergies and intolerances.

In addition to making sure their children get enough to eat and don’t eat anything they shouldn’t, family reactions and judgement can be overwhelming.

However, parents can navigate these situations and foster healthy eating habits with a few strategies.

1. Set expectations early

Gently discuss your child’s needs with the celebration host beforehand.

This helps friends and family understand what is helpful and unhelpful when supporting your child’s eating.

Setting boundaries around conversations about your child’s eating habits can be beneficial. For example, you can ask people not to comment on how much or little your child eats. Most people appreciate the heads up and are willing to accommodate.

2. Have a plan B

If Christmas lunch is going to be overwhelming, or you can’t ensure the food served will be something your child can eat, it might be easier to feed your child beforehand.

This allows you to relax and join the celebrations without worrying about your child going hungry. Alternatively, you can bring along a selection of foods for your child to ensure they can participate in mealtime without the pressure of trying new foods or having limited options.

Including some familiar foods in the spread ensures that there’s something on the table your child is comfortable with.

3. Minimise anxiety

Holidays can be a time of increased anxiety, especially for selective eaters. Kids may find it challenging to cope with changes in routine and the excitement of the day.

Try to minimise changes to normal routines where you can, and make sure you and your child get some downtime between activities. Anxious children are less likely to want to eat.

4. Focus on togetherness

Reduce the food focus by emphasising the importance of connection and togetherness during mealtimes. This will help create a relaxed environment, which will help your child associate mealtimes with positive emotions rather than pressure to eat.

It might help to have some talking points, such as Christmas cracker jokes, highlights of the year, or what we are most looking forward to in the new year (rather than just talking about the food).

5. What are other guests doing?

The presence of other people can change behaviour; this is what researchers call “social facilitation.” We see this when children are more adventurous when eating with their peers at school or daycare than at home.

Festive events offer opportunities for children to observe others enjoying various foods.

6. Lots of things to try

Despite concerns, festive occasions often provide incidental, low-pressure situations for children to explore new foods.

Use this time to encourage them to see, touch, smell and taste various treats. This can foster food acceptance at their own pace.

7. Give children food-related jobs

Research suggests being involved in food preparation can increase eating enjoyment and reduce picky eating.

So ask your kids to help with simple food preparation, serving food, clearing away plates and mixing ingredients. This allows your child to have sensory exposure and be part of the experience with no expectation they must eat the food.

8. Be vigilant about allergens

It’s okay to be vigilant about checking labels for any ingredients that might cause a reaction in your child. Ask family members to label foods that contain potential allergens, especially if you have older children serving themselves.

Remember to be careful with buffet-style meals. The risk of cross-contamination is higher, as serving utensils could be moved between dishes.

Everyone deserves to enjoy the holidays, including parents and children. So don’t hesitate to do what you need to ensure your and your child’s well-being.

You can find more information for managing a picky eater at the Grow & Go Toolbox.

Stella Boyd-Ford, Research Fellow with the Grow&Go Toolbox, The University of Queensland and Clare Dix, Research Fellow in Nutrition & Dietetics, The University of Queensland

This article is republished from The Conversation under a Creative Commons license. Read the original article.